Have you ever thought there was something wrong with you because you don’t have as many friendships in your 30’s as opposed to your teens and 20’s? I often find myself wondering where everyone went.

The Lord intends for us to grow and change. Do friendships always evolve through the changes? I don’t often talk to people who have had the same friends since they were kids. It does occur to me that my husband has a couple of friends he’s known since he was in early grade school. Women are just plain different.

I don’t find anything more devisive than when the decision comes to leave the corporate world and become a full time wife and mom. I think some women are just plain offended when a fully financially independent woman decides to leave a nice paycheck for her family. The truth is, I’ve never felt so alone as when I made the call to be my kids mom.

Let’s get back to the questions at hand, though. Is it harder to have friendships now? It is for me. I can name numerous people that I know and have a great relationship with, but only a handful of truely exceptional people that I call my friends. Most people wouldn’t even count their husbands…I do. I can be really honest with him and he knows all my stuff…you know, the stuff only a true friend knows. Then there are 3 very new friends I can count and a couple…just a couple who I’ve had longer than a couple of years.

I feel as though I’ve really decided who God wants me to be in the last couple of years. A lot of people don’t want to face the truth. I can, I just don’t always like what I face.

• Friendships take nurturing. Sometimes I get really wrapped up in my family and simply can’t exert energy outside these 4 walls.
• It’s a wake up call to learn who you learn who you can count on in a crisis.
• It’s also a wake up call to not always be the giver in a friendship but sometimes take a little for yourself.

This may make no sense to anyone but me, but that’s okay. Like I told Kurt, a blog is cheaper than therapy!!!!!

Have a great night!